Mental Health

We are living in an age where our observations are now growing ever so slightly deeper, societally. Before we would observe the colour of someones skin, the shape of particular features- now we have "grown". We are observing behaviour on a societal level. Oh and how quick we are to jump and label said behaviour.

To me it is simple. If there isn't a nerulogical problem, a genetic mutation [not variation], or developmental issues then the disorder does not exist. Dont jump to conclusions on me just yet. There are people with issues- real emotional "I survived this" issues. Because of having actual real experience [real doesnt necessarily mean good, keep your perceptive devices on hold for this] they have emotions and spectrum scales that differ from those who've lived lives in which sitcoms thrive. There is a stigma that has been created and attached to this slightly larger spectrum these people have.

Imagine no one ever scraped their knees, ever, and if they did- not one person would know about it because their knee would be hidden until it had healed [god forbid it scarred]. Now imagine you scraped your knee- you were in shorts and this was the only lower clothing option you had- you werent planning on scraping your knee- you may not of even known such things could happen/existed- so there was no way to hide this scraped knee. Sure you tried to put a square of kleenex on it and tried to pass it off as the next fashion trend- but you know that knee is scraped. And it seems people believe your kleenex story even when it starts to bleed through and you say you wanted a mishaped blob on it. So you go on and you notice that some other people have pants. As the day goes on you become more and more aware of these people with pants. And not just because you now wish you had a pair, no, now you're starting to notice the differences in reactions to your presence. Some seem to be equally as careless as the others who bought your fashion story. But others seem to have you pinned right away to what is going on. Their stares seem to become increasingly ominous yet not a single word is spoken. They ignore you if they do not know how to handle the information- they distance themselves if they see a chance in which they can be grouped with you [you knew johnny had a funny looking skin gathering on his knee- its starting to come together for you now] and they modify themselves into a per-cautious state whether for support or blackmail [their eyes will tell]. Now this one incident has changed everything you thought you knew about people- you are now living in a world inside of a world which cannot be shared without great scrutiny. Say this scrape left a unrelenting scar. You now have undeniable proof it happened- forever. Sure you do what every sane person would do and you buy a pair of pants or 30 of them. For the most part people dont notice the change but that is while you are you- as an individual. When it comes to social mingling and intimate moments these are forever changed- you may think of a game plan, or avoid it but either way it will never be as it would of been if that scrape never happened. So now you need to deal with this- just the fact that there is a difference in the first place. Something you need to modify yourself over continuously [you really loved shorts]. Your whole life now is compromise.

How do you deal with this? Well some just dont- they escape through various means- an addict of some form or another [some can be seen as more constructive then others but its always subjective]. Some learn a great deal from the compromises made- but they are now stuck on what they've learned and the guidelines society expects from them as acceptable- boxed in like trained animals. In the hypothetical I mentioned the very fact scraped knees are something to hushed about would be ridiculous to us but oh and the ruckus you would make by challenging the very constructs of what someone once thought was an ideal world. Granted it did initiate the growth of what we see today. In this hypothetical world regarding people who never will have to worry about a scraped knee again because they have had the worse already happen- some cope fine, as if nothing had happened- sure they feel mildly disconnected at times and once in a blue moon they may jump from on extreme to another but they will always remain faithful to their envy.

Now so far in what I have described I doubt you've thought ill of the person with the scraped knee [if you did, other than the ridiculousness of it all, then why are you interested in progressive thought?]. In this one instance a scraped knee is the worse of the worse for this person. When it comes down to an extreme low in their life you'd think that they would have the thought "well at least I didnt scrape my knee" but this is wrong. Not what this person is thinking at all. What is going through their mind is "and on top of it all.." scraped knee. This is normal- its what everyone goes through during their low points- but in this world a scraped knee being the worse of the worst once you get into this mind set you will not have the power yourself to just snap out of it. You need and what it is you need is at all times unavailable- this is how it feels. Some people cannot handle such a feeling, especially in a world where it is claimed that all is at your fingertips. The ones that cannot cope [through no fault of their own] will start producing behaviours which emulate fight or flight. The fighters will accept the inevitable- in the hypothetical world that would mean they would fall constantly- scrap themselves over and over to prove that it means nothing. The flyers they will revert into themselves cautiously avoiding all possibilities of falling. The path these people have started on is a spiraled path. If they cannot stop, which most cant [which makes total sense when it comes to realizing that in most cases, whether it is talked about or not, the people with scraped knees come from a line of people falling and some of the people in that line even went as far as to make other within that family scrap their knees to not be alone, and the skills to identify such situations or cope with them are not learned or passed down because they dont exist.] they will end up going into an extreme of the form they have been given through their fight or flight response. Some of these forms are unpleasent to experience beyond the person experiencing it but unfortunately as a society we are so emotionally shut down that we dont even know how to experience such things with these people. With, not because. We are diverting ourselves from ever feeling anything because "Its too hard" yet we pride ourselves on being tough? Where is this toughness- you cannot even handle a tear for the most part yet alone a full blown episode of this persons past yet you also pride yourself on being empathetic. So we've created a quick fix- drugs, simulated lethargy, because no one has time to fix the broken ones.. its disgusting..